2019 is here. What does it mean? What is everyone doing? New Years Resolutions. This time frame is where everyone is setting their own personal goals to improve themselves and their lives. While I was growing up, my mother had us all write our own personal goals and we read our goals to each other. My mother would read our personal goals from the previous year to list our accomplishments. Of course, there were a few that we did not get to accomplished. And that is okay.
Throughout the year, I constantly check my goals and review them- my journals helps me to stay on track and even make some adjustments. I no longer have just my own personal goals. I also have parenting goals. I feel it is important to me to help my daughter achieve her own goals. She does not have personal goals. She has a lot of love for life, I want her to stay joyful, grow, learn, and discover new things. As a parent, it is important to help her with a routine, academics, social, health and well being. Do you have a child? You can set goals as a parent to help them and guide them along the way to finish off their school year nicely and start a new school grade. Advocate for their needs. Strengthen to work on their needs. I also have set another day of a week- on Wednesdays, we have a girls night- three generations: my mother, daughter and I to have dinner and chat. I decided to do another day of week just her and I to do something special to keep that bond strong since I am getting busy with my full time day job and running a business full time as well. I want her to be able to have extracurricular activities and more friends to come over or even a sleep over.(Fill up my cup, please? Coffee) . We will unlock our dreams and fly to discover what 2019 will bring us.
Also, I have been crazy busy being a full time teachers aide, running a business full time, full time single mother that there are not enough hours during the day. Right? Guilty moment, my daughter is an only child and can be very energetic. Recently, she asked me to do things with her. Right at that moment. We as a parent would say no most of the times right? Because we are busy cleaning, organizing and doing something at that moment. Instead, I have been saying "yes" right at that moment. Turned off the sink faucet when I was in middle of washing dishes. We danced. We did yoga. She actually did three different scavenger hunts. When she was ready, I was ready. It was actually a lot of fun. I read somewhere online last year that a mother tried this method, from "no" to "yes". I missed a lot of enjoyment because I would be too late by the time I was ready, we debated or argued and we can be stubborn of our time -I am not ready when she is or I am ready when she is not ready "Wait for 7 minutes?" "30 minutes". I am the discipline mother playing the two roles due to single motherhood. I was shocked how much a difference it was to say "yes" and our relationship, myself and my daughter's . Surprisingly, we haven't been stubborn of our time, I have asked her to do something with me and she did with an interest and a positive attitude. Of course, there are things I will say "no" to certain and inappropriate things! I am willing to drop my laundry basket of clean clothes that needs to be folded to do things with my daughter when she ask me at that moment to do something with her. Because I will not have much time with her when she will be busy with her social life growing up.
Here are lovely quotes to use for your goals throughout the year-
Set for your goal, be ambitious. Do what you dream, unlock your wishes. - Aaron David
Unlock your dreams, set them free to fly- Bernard Kelvin Clive
Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We only have today- Mother Theresa
A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step- Chinese Proverb.
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. -C.S. Lewis.
Hearing Impaired single mother and teacher aide at a hearing impaired oral preschool program. An author of "Turn The Lights On, I Cant Hear You".